Hope this is the right place to post this. All very new to this forum thing.
I've been friends with an agoraphobic guy for a few months now, but we've recently started dating. Since we've started dating, his agoraphobia has become worse and he is struggling a lot with it. He is on medication and seeing a therapist, but is still finding it hard. I am trying to be completely understanding and not push him to do anything he doesn't feel comfortable with. The problem is that I can't actually go over to his house (for unavoidable reasons) so we hardly see each other and seem to fight a lot about this. When we do go out together I always tell him to choose what he is comfortable with, then he will get annoyed at me because I never say what I want to do. Today I did give him a long list of things I would like to do and he got upset because he felt like I was pushing him (even though he pushed me to tell him).
I am trying so hard, but I don't seem to be doing anything right. Can anybody tell me else I can do to help him through this? I have been doing extensive research and reading on it and trying to make sure I do everything people suggest, but I would gladly welcome tips from those with experience with agoraphobia or being with an agoraphobe, because I feel like I can't do anything right! He even acknowledges he is pushing me away because he feels like I am pushing him to be in uncomfortable places (which I am going out of my way not to)!
Help me please! I love this man with all my heart and don't want to push him away any further.