FED UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mama]

I am here to rant YES! I am so sick of everyone telling me that I am judgemental!! i try to think realistically and I am told I am beign judgemental. I don't like it when ppl have to have all the attention and sook all the time about their poor life and never want to do anything about it. I mean everythime i say something it is never heard. In my life I am sick of it..it needs to stop. I deserve some respect. I respect others here and in my life I deserve it back.....
I am tired of letting ppl walk all over me it will stop I am demanding it in my life..and if no one likes it I really don't care....

mama :angry:
AAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lostinlife]

. I mean everythime i say something it is never heard. In my life I am sick of it..it needs to stop. I deserve some respect. I respect others here and in my life I deserve it back.....
I am tired of letting ppl walk all over me it will stop I am demanding it in my life..and if no one likes it I really don't care....



hey mama extremley well said
you desirve total respect your a fantastic person and i know by personal experiences that you always have something good to say stay strong and keep demanding respect

best wishes comming your way
lots of love lostinlife

[mama]

THank you so much!!!

I needed to hear that lost....

tons of love mama

[dino]

DEAR MAMA
WE ALL DESERVE RESPECT I AM TOTALLY WI YOU ON THIS ONE , I HAVE ONE COMMENT TO MAKE REGARDING YOUR QUOTE "when ppl have to have all the attention and sook all the time about their poor life and never want to do anything about it. "
BELIEVE ME AND I DO NOT THIS WANT THIS COMING OOT THE WRONG WAY BUT I WOULD CUT OFF MA RIGHT ARM TO MAKE THIS AGORAPHOBIA,ANXIETY AND PANIC GO AWAY ,AS YOU ARE AWARE MAMA I HAVE TRIED AND DO TRY AS BEST AS I CAN BUT IT IS BLODDY HARD BELIEVE ME AS YOU KNOW I AM STRAIGHT TO THE POINT AND I THINK IN SOME WAYS YES WE ARE ALL JUDGEMENTAL ,OH FFS I DINNA THINK IM MAKING SENSE HERE I JUST BETTER SHUT MA GOB PMSL
ANYHOW MAMA HOPE YE CALMED DOON AFTER YOUR RANT
LOVE DIANE (dino)
PS IM NO ONLY JUDGEMENTAL IM TOTALLY MENTAL PMSL

[mama]

Hey Dino
I know you try so hard and I would cut off my right arm if it meant you would get better. I was talking about people in my direct life that never look at positives. They always think they have had such a hard life when others have it SO BAD. I have just been really irritated alot lately by the way I have been being treated in my life. I just decided to put my foot down and it was the best choice ever!!....

LOADS OF LOVE TO YOU DINO!!!!!

love mama

I am EXTREMELY proud of you for how hard you are trying in your life and I do understand how hard it is hun..Hang in there!!!!

[tommygirl25]

I think to get respect you must earn it, by showing others that you are willing to listen to them and understand them. You say you are talking about your family but you said 'here' too, so that must mean chat. You got a short fuse sometimes and you seem to be ready to blow up at any minute. I think you judge people to quickly and you need to open up more and find out how people really are inside. Then they will respect you more which then in return they will not be so judgemental towards you and will be willing to listen to you and understand you. Take a deep breath and let out all that bad energy. You know you are a good person you just need to relax a little. Be young enjoy life, have some fun, joke its not all about being serious all the time that will kill you fast. Just cus you have kids doesn't mean your life ends and you have to all grown up all the time. Stay young, act young, and you will live a long and happy life.

tommygirl25

[CAJnCAT]

Mama

I really dont know how to reply to this topic. But here goes !!!! LOL
There are people in this world and in our immediate families that chose to live their lives the way they want to. I can relate to "the whining oh poor me, my life sucks. etc." and these people dont do anything about it. Mama I had to just let it go, its up to them to make their lifes better if they so choose to. Its their choice. I try really hard not to be judgmental of people. If they ask me for advice, I give it to them, what they do with it is up to them. And yes, I've been cussed for everything but a child of God and my reply to them was this " Yes I'm all that and a bag a chips too." LOL I have also had to distance myself from people before. I was always Miss Fix Everything.....if something went wrong who did everybody call? ME.....Well my counselor told me to tell people this " Sounds like you have a problem, now what are YOU gonna do about it?" Well I tried it, and they didn't know what to say....LOL... But it worked they leave me alone now. As far as RESPECT goes, yes I think all of us deserve respect. I respect others as long as they respect me. But there are people in this world that will never show respect, just another thing that we have to let go of. I dont know if this has helped or hurt. I surely dont want to hurt anyones feelings, its not my nature.
Sorry for rambling.

Connie

[insomniac]

Mama said:

I am here to rant YES! I am so sick of everyone telling me that I am judgemental!! i try to think realistically and I am told I am beign judgemental. I don't like it when ppl have to have all the attention and sook all the time about their poor life and never want to do anything about it. I mean everythime i say something it is never heard. In my life I am sick of it..it needs to stop. I deserve some respect. I respect others here and in my life I deserve it back.....
I am tired of letting ppl walk all over me it will stop I am demanding it in my life..and if no one likes it I really don't care....

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I'm a bit confused Mama as you say 'everyone' and all the people I have met here have been supportive and kind, something i try to return when possible.
Saying that:
" I don't like it when ppl have to have all the attention and sook all the time about their poor life and never want to do anything about it."
Makes you come across as being judgemental and slightly intolerant but I'm sure you probably didnt intend to sound that way

No one has ever been one sided in the way they need support and give it in phobics towards me, do you mean the people in your life outside of here?

I often find that when people are 'walking all over me' that I have a lot of the time lost perspective and am infact overreacting a bit.
The times that I have been right however I have been told by my therapists in the past that being walked over is something that can be proactively guarded against to a degree by using certain technuiqes, such as responding with definate statements.

Good luck changing things but remember you'll have to meet some of the people half way, I found that 'demanding' things never really works since no matter how one sided the argument or conflict is there is allways two or more sides to things, since it takes two people to create such a situation.

Best Wishes in sorting things out - Insomniac

So you learned what the rant thread is for, to get it out.
You do have a habit of giving advice when not asked for and criticizing people here for venting and siding with the other party when we come here to vent out our negative emotions and find support. This is one place where I expect to find support and not criticism. I have opinions of my own but curbed voicing any judgements I have that might make people more stressed.
I was surprised you would use this thread at all.

Ok.. I broke my own rule.

So... Perhaps people would think you were less judgemental if you kept your mouth shut around here when whatever you say might just rile people more. And when you feel like someone's walking over you and making too many demands tell them to knock it off. Put that foot down like you said. What's the worse that could happen?

[mama]

Hey
Thanks Caj for your kind words it means alot. I'm not sure how I ended up being the bad guy here. I thought I have always helped ppl here and felt good about it. I guess I do need to stop being so gaulible thats how I got in this mess in the first place. Oh well stay positive and life goes on. And remember I have bad days just like everyone else...

Stay strong guys

love mama