I always knew something wasn't right, I would get bright red in the face around people I didn't know. I found it really bad talking to my boss, I would start sweating, so I could never get my point across. I didn't know it had a name until about five years ago.
I started seeing a psychaitrist because so many things were effecting me and that was effecting my family. He said I even had it when driving, like worrying about the car behind me if I was too slow at an intersection. I then started looking social anxiety up on the internet and found a support chat room and didn't feel like i was alone anymore.
I had to really work on my social anxiety because of my kids, also it only efected me in certain situations. I had noticed my kids were picking up some of my traits. It was at this time I realised my husband had social anxiety, and I had just didn't notice. we just fell in the habit of doing things a certain way.
My hubby wouldn't answer the phone, or answer the door, he wouldn't pay for food deliverier at the door either. He would go through drive throughs for food either, though he would for his coffee, but if I changed my mind have way through he would get very frustrated. He also has driving social anxiety, constantly worrying about the guy behind him. He won't admit he has social anxiety, though he knows he does.
We are both inproving, I am now mostly uncomfortable around gatherings, and people I don't know. He kind of had know choice when I got hurt. I was in bed for 6 months and he had to do everything. I do giggle now though when we go through drive throughs for food, I have to order, so here I am yelling over him. But he has changed a lot.
The kids both have traits and all I can do is just keep talking to them.