When did you realise you had social phobia?

[Snowy]

I always knew something wasn't right, I would get bright red in the face around people I didn't know. I found it really bad talking to my boss, I would start sweating, so I could never get my point across. I didn't know it had a name until about five years ago.

I started seeing a psychaitrist because so many things were effecting me and that was effecting my family. He said I even had it when driving, like worrying about the car behind me if I was too slow at an intersection. I then started looking social anxiety up on the internet and found a support chat room and didn't feel like i was alone anymore.

I had to really work on my social anxiety because of my kids, also it only efected me in certain situations. I had noticed my kids were picking up some of my traits. It was at this time I realised my husband had social anxiety, and I had just didn't notice. we just fell in the habit of doing things a certain way.

My hubby wouldn't answer the phone, or answer the door, he wouldn't pay for food deliverier at the door either. He would go through drive throughs for food either, though he would for his coffee, but if I changed my mind have way through he would get very frustrated. He also has driving social anxiety, constantly worrying about the guy behind him. He won't admit he has social anxiety, though he knows he does.

We are both inproving, I am now mostly uncomfortable around gatherings, and people I don't know. He kind of had know choice when I got hurt. I was in bed for 6 months and he had to do everything. I do giggle now though when we go through drive throughs for food, I have to order, so here I am yelling over him. But he has changed a lot.

The kids both have traits and all I can do is just keep talking to them.

Bubbles xx

[ocdsux]

I always knew something was not quite right. I pushed people away and would go to elaborate lengths to not attend social things even as a child. I would ask to leave school early and not attend things. My parents just thought I wasn't into school. Then I guess in high school I realized the social phobia/anxiety deal. I obsessively worry people are saying wow look how fat,ugly,stupid she is. It sucks. My syblings are overly social and they think I just don't like people. I will avoid drive throughs, don't go to certain stores, social functions, school events, family events, on and on.......

[redhealing]

Im not sure if i have it or not. :unsure:
I dont know where to start with this....
So ill apolagise if this doesnt make sence as you read this,
as just thinking about it is making me nervours.
Oh and im sorry if my spelling is really bad too as im dyslexic.
Anyways...

Im 24 and suffer with panic/anxaity attacks and depression.
But its only really been the last few days that ive come to think that
i suffer with social phobia as i ive relised i find it very hard to meet
new peeps and talk to them. At first i thought it was just because of
the panic attacks but i even find it hard to be social with my own family
when im down, Just sitting with them in the same room watching tv
can make me nervours thinking of what to say. But lucky it only happens
when im feelling down.

Ive suffered with anxity and panic attacks from the age of 16 and maybe
before that but never really relised.
when i was young i always tryed to get out of going out with my friends,
and i never went to party and things.

Im very luky tho as my family understand my illness and my partner(Im a lesbian)
is also very understanding.

I find it very hard to go to our local shops on my own and to be honest i cant
remember the last time ive been out on my own. I always have to have someone with me.

My mother thinks i may have agraphobia (where you cant go out)
But i havent been diagnosed by my GP as yet.
I do find it very difficalt to leave the house on my own but i can some times
go out with someone else(Faimly) but as long as i know where im going and whats going to happen. Oh as as long as i know its not to far.

But i always thought that having agraphobia ment that you can never leave the house and as i can some times that it ment i dont suffer with it.
And that i find it hard to leave the house only because of the panic attacks.

Anyways i have gone on enough and feel silly :blink:
So im going to leave it there and hope that i havent bored anyone
silly that reads this.


tc

[Star]

I have had sa since i was a teenager.. It is severe in the sense i am still unable to work or attend mainstreem education. However i have made some progress and i hope i can continue to get better.

[hellsbells]

That's what I thought too

Agoraphobia is all about avoiding situations and spaces for fear of having a panic attack. It doesnt mean you cant leave the house, only if it gets progressively worse.

I have been diagnosed with it and I think you have a similar condition along with social anxiety also.

Having the diagnosis helped me come to terms with what was happening to me.
I would go back to your GP for some more advice

Helen xxx

Im not sure if i have it or not.* :unsure:
I dont know where to start with this....
So ill apolagise if this doesnt make sence as you read this,
as just thinking about it is making me nervours.
Oh and im sorry if my spelling is really bad too as im dyslexic.
Anyways...

Im 24 and suffer with panic/anxaity attacks and depression.
But its only really been the last few days that ive come to think that
i suffer with social phobia as i ive relised i find it very hard to meet
new peeps and talk to them. At first i thought it was just because of
the panic attacks but i even find it hard to be social with my own family
when im down, Just sitting with them in the same room watching tv
can make me nervours thinking of what to say. But lucky it only happens
when im feelling down.

Ive suffered with anxity and panic attacks from the age of 16 and maybe
before that but never really relised.
when i was young i always tryed to get out of going out with my friends,
and i never went to party and things.

Im very luky tho as my family understand my illness and my partner(Im a lesbian)
is also very understanding.

I find it very hard to go to our local shops on my own and to be honest i cant
remember the last time ive been out on my own. I always have to have someone with me.

My mother thinks i may have agraphobia (where you cant go out)
But i havent been diagnosed by my GP as yet.
I do find it very difficalt to leave the house on my own but i can some times
go out with someone else(Faimly) but as long as i know where im going and whats going to happen. Oh as as long as i know its not to far.

But i always thought that having agraphobia ment that you can never leave the house and as i can some times that it ment i dont suffer with it.
And that i find it hard to leave the house only because of the panic attacks.

Anyways i have gone on enough and feel silly :blink:
So im going to leave it there and hope that i havent bored anyone
silly that reads this.
tc

[insomniac]

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[guest7]

i dun know when i got it... i remember when i was a younger...i had no difficulty talking to people ...i had lots of friends and was at ease with almost everything i think at the age of aobut 12-13...i started developing extreme fear for health care.... hygiene problems etc... i didn't know what i got..then found in a tv show it was OCD....

i don't know if it was my OCD that somekind made me develop social anxiety.... i think i got social anxiety at the same moment i got OCD and i had fear approaching,shaking hand or be in contact with other people because of my extreme hygiene habits... etc..(wash hands loads of time)... now i am a better with OCD.... i dun wash hands as often as before but now my social anxiety has somekind took over... i turn red and sweat very easily etc... that really sucks!!! sometimes i even tell myself that when my OCD was "high",i was happier... i hope i dun sound too stupid

[guest7]

I noticed that i prefer to be lonely to go out rather than being with someone as i an anxious about the someone's view of how stupid i am when i go to shops etc...

[bothersome]

Hi everyone... thought I'd start here, even though it's an old topic.

As for the subject, I guess it was pretty much the time I dropped out of school, even though looking back I was always really scared of things like going away with friends, etc., as a younger kid. I remember being terrified months in advance of school trips When I couldn't handle school anymore, I looked into school phobia (I think that's what most people think I have, too), but I've always just gotten chills from the description of social phobia. It's too close to home, you know? Like with ocdsux's comments:

Then I guess in high school I realized the social phobia/anxiety deal. I obsessively worry people are saying wow look how fat,ugly,stupid she is.

Reading that is so strange for me, still, since it's exactly how I feel. I remember not being able to eat in front of people (because they'd think "God, what, she's that fat and she's eating all that?"), talk in front of people, answer questions - all the things I wish I could do.

Anyway, wow, I guess I've been holding that in for a while, since I didn't mean to go off on a ramble... sorry, guys. And again, hi ^_^

[petal]

Dear Bothersome

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