What to do/ wene you can't help

As many of you know i raised my neice. since very young age.

she came out tonight for dinner, with her brother seemed bit down

but happy to visit what she's only known as her home, all she could talk on was drug'sover over, proud she acted, but i seen this sad in her saying aunty i need help, i got in a panic telling her that drug's fear me, and she just started to cry
i huged her and told her ill always be here for her, she's to be living at her other aunt's, and tryed to say i am the only MUM she's known, i told her ill get her help
and she said she's not hit bottom yet, she left and huged me as i cryed but did
not let her see, 2 hour's later she calls and say's she's on PCP, and said i was the only one she could talk to, but in the midst i got in a panic, BC I FEAR DRUG'S
i know this should maybe on rant's raves sorry i am going on, but i Just dont know
what to do, how to help, and the anxiety and panics i get from drug's hearing or talking on them scare me. she is only 16 a wee child, i have a sick daughter
and hard to try taking care of her added grandchildren.
i guess i rambled on long enough as i sit and just cry thinking what can i do? I fear she will OD at the rate shes going.

thxs all

cheer

[Naomi]

Hello Cheer,

I've read this post a few times, because it struck home with me. I haven't personally taken in any of my neices or nephews, but my mother has.

I have a sister, and her husband, who are addicted. It's a horrible environment for children without a doubt. Somehow her kids have managed to stay with her, and two of them may have a chance at not repeating the bad mistakes she has made. Unfortunately, the help my mum and stepfather were able to provide for so many years, has been exhausted. Financially, mentally, emotionally, we're all drained. And it has taken my mum many many years to realize that she's done all she can and although she still loves my sister and her kids, she cannot rescue them.

You have done a great thing in taking care of your neice. Unfortunately, we cannot control them nor the decisions they make. What I feel is, all you can do now is just make sure that she knows how much you love her, that your door is always open to her and she has your trust. She should know you're concerned and worried for her too, but it really is all in her hands.

I sincerely hope and pray she finds her way out of her addictions and back into the loving home with her loving Aunt. Don't give up...miracles do happen.

All my best to you and your family.

Naomi

Naomi

I really thankyou for shareing this part of you'r life
that's been so hard for you and you'r family.
ive sat back past few day's and really have thought that's
all i can do, ive givin all i can, and she is at a low point but as many
say what you have said it's in her hand's and ive done all i can.
i can only pray and be here morally for her, as ill just get sicker
thinking on it , and asking my self the WHY'S WHY'S .. the IF'S IF'S
and really with all my heart and soul i thankyou for shareing this
time's it help's just to know 1 person can relate.







cheer xxxxxxxx

[Jane~BH]

Thinking of you cheer (( hugs)) , as Naimo said you have done all you can , just hang in there xxxx

Jane

Txs so much. alote of ppl have asked me what's keeping me going
and my responce is Phobics, times wene you just think you don't know
what to do or were to go , ive alway's known here is speacial were ppl really
do care, i am doing all i can to hold up and with all of you i thankyou so much.







cheer

[Anna]

Hiya Cheer

I have Known how much you have been there for your family members and you have done all you could do and more beside, I hope that everything turns out ok for you all.

love
Anna
xxxx

Anna


so much one day i pray it all work's out got wee tear's bc i know some
of you know that's all ive really got is the love for them.
thanks a millon.




cheer xxxxx

just thought ide post on the lighter note, wee BRIT came here

yesterday broken down , but she's awise child she asked me were she should go detox , counceling, alateen, i said she need's to ask her self how far she fallen.
next thing i know she just picked the phone up and called her socail worker
and asked to be placed in detox.. she's here but going in 1 hour.
and i want to say thxs to all that stuck threw this hard time with me.. so here
is just the update bit happy long road she's got BUT GREAT STEP SHES DOING

ALL



lvs cheer

[Anna]

Oh cheer

This is just great news for all of your family most of is for Brit shes done so well coming to that decision by herself its a very big step so well done on her I send lots of love to lil Brit and to all of you family.

love
Anna
xxxx

Anna


THXS so much again she's gone wee feared , but she will do great me girl's are proud of her , and we always will be here for her. she is there called me so i know she's safe for now, and 1 big step she took was that call , as well going .

girl's me send you a big





lvs yas cheer