Why is it that when you are going through a rough time, some people in your family deliberately say the things that hurt the most? I don't understand it. A family should be supportive. After they say hurtful things to me, I'm left by myself feeling as something is wrong with me, as if I'm ugly and worthless. I do feel ugly and worthless because while I was a child, my adoptive father would come by my door and say those things to me everyday, that I was ugly, worthless, and invaluable. After a while, you begin to believe the things you were told, and your mind replays it in your head.