Problems with family

[musicmanJ]

Why is it that when you are going through a rough time, some people in your family deliberately say the things that hurt the most? I don't understand it. A family should be supportive. After they say hurtful things to me, I'm left by myself feeling as something is wrong with me, as if I'm ugly and worthless. I do feel ugly and worthless because while I was a child, my adoptive father would come by my door and say those things to me everyday, that I was ugly, worthless, and invaluable. After a while, you begin to believe the things you were told, and your mind replays it in your head.

[FLORENCE]

MUSIC MAN,,,,,, I DEFINATELY UNDERSTAND,,,,,MY FAMILY DOESN'T UNDERSTAND EITHER, THAT IS WHY I COME TO CHAT,,,,, MY ABUSE WASN'T FROM A FAMILY MEMBER, BUT FROM SOMEONE I WORKED WITH,WHO WOULD DO MUCH THE SAME THING ,JUST VERBALLY TEAR ME TO SHREDS!!!!!!! YES YOU DO, COME TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING THEY SAY ABOUT YOU IS TRUE..... SO WHENEVER YOU ARE HURT NOW ,,THOSE SAME THOUGHT DO COME RIGHT BACK TO MIND AND YOU DO RELIVE IT ALL OVER AGAIN......I'M SORRY YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW BUT DO COME HERE WHENEVR YOU HAVE THESE FEELINGS ,,,,,,OR NOT BECAUSE YOU SEE SO MANY WHO SUFFER ,,,AND YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER KNOWING YOU ARE NOT ALONE,,,, A FELLOW SUFFERER ,,,,,FLORENCE

Musicman,

I also understand and i'm sorry for what you are going through. My mom doesnt understand it at all. Thank goodness I dont live at home anymore but its so hard. Because she wants to know what's going on, or so she says...but then when i tell her its like she's got the "cure all" solution. suck it up and move on basically..these are the best years of your life blah blah. So I do totally feel where your coming from. It can be very hard for people to understand it but that doesnt give them the right to bash you, not at all. I hope things get better for you or maybe see you in chat sometime and have a chat.

Take care of yourself

Hugs
~bluecowgirl

[serious]

Music Man,
I completely 100% understand how you feel. I won't go into details about my own experience with put downs, let's just say that it has affected me in such a way that now, when someone pays me a compliment, I automatically assume they do it just because they feel sorry for me or they want something from me.
I very rarely recognize sincere compliments as sincere. I am very suspicious of good intentions.
I hope that your family will recognize what they are doing to someone they should be showering unconditional love on. If not, we will be here to support you unconditionally, and just remember, no person should be treated inhumanely.

Take care, Serious (Amanda)

[freaking-out]

Dear Musicman,
Your adoptive father had no right to say those things to you! Dont listen to him, believe in yourself!!!!! xxx freaky xxx






The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Freaky