Some insight and advice needed PLEASE

[amyfromar_98]

I am 31, never married, no children, only child, raised by a single parent (my mom), never met my father, I'm currently in a relationship for 2 1/2 years, have been at my current job for 6 1/2 years, I'm of average weight although I'm larger now than I have ever been, I'm not poor, but definately not well off, I make enough to get by without struggling, as far as I know I'm in decent health although I am always sick with a cold or something along those lines & I also have terrible allergies,I never have any energy either, I really don't have any friends, my mom & my partner are my best friends, I have a couple aquaintences that I may see 2 or 3 times a year, nothing terribly traumatic has ever happened to me. So I know that I don't have it that bad common sense tells me that, but I can't help feeling like this. I hate everyone & everything! IHML!! I can't stand my job, my partner, my family most of the time, everyone & everything gets on my nerves! I feel like I am living this mundane existance with no way of changing it. I've pretty much always just been here, I can't ever remember feeling extatically happy. I see people that are happy & hear them talk about their lives & families & the whole time I'm thinking what the hell is so great about it? Nothing brings me joy, what does that mean? Am I doomed to be this bitchy unhappy person for the rest of my life? I've read self help topics & steps to finding happiness & most of them say to set goals that will make you happy. Well I don't have any goals, there's no job out there that I dream of having, it really doesn't matter to me if I'm single or in a relationship, I don't want children, so what is there? Is something broken in me? I want to disappear, I don't want to be anymore, but in the same hand I am so terribly affraid of death. Silly huh? I've been considering lately just going away, not telling anyone & just going somewhere new, but there's that voice that tells me that won't help either because it's not the people or where I live, it's me....

[duckduckduke]

I think the problem is obviously finding out what makes you happy. Maybe nothing is doing it for you right now but try and think of the things in the past then that have made you happy and try to live that way. I think sometimes as adults we forget to be kids.

[Zombie Graveyard Party]

I have a similar problem with feeling like I never experience true happiness like other people seem to. I feel like every day is a chore, and I'm just going through the motions. The best thing I've found so far is to find at least one hobby/thing that I like to do. Some of my favorites: listening to music, reading books, playing games (computer games, video games, board games, card games, sports, etc. - whatever suits you best), various puzzles (Sudoku, crossword, jigsaw... I know it sounds nerdy, but I think it helps my mind to focus), and seeking out good movies and TV shows to watch (because I think good movies and good TV shows are a rare thing). I've also been considering learning how to play a musical instrument.

I think the important thing is to spend time every day or almost every day doing something that we enjoy. So the important thing for you right now is to figure out what you enjoy doing.

[amyfromar_98]

Thanks to those of you that replied. ddd- I don't know of anything that has ever really made me happy, that's the problem...my whole life I have just been going through the motions... I don't really know how to explain it other than honestly there is NOTHING that makes me happy... Whatever is in us that allows us to feel happiness, is broken in me. ZGP-TV is my life. It's the main thing that I do on a daily basis bc I have no friends. I do read occasionally & every Friday my mom, my aunt, & my self get together & play cards & board games, but again NONE of this brings me happiness. I'm just going through the motions. Finding something that makes me happy isn't the problem, it's figuring out how to feel happy at all....

[amy]

im 31 suffering with anxiety and panic attacks

[amy]

i believe ive tried everything to stop worrying about everything

[amy]

i always thought tha same. its weird to feel like that isnt it?

[amy]

is there anyone on this site that can give a lil advice on coping with anxiety?

[Gad man]

Amy
I think the best thing to do is try to give yourself a complete life makeover I know it sounds drastic but living miserable is the worst way of existence. Working out first of all will burn off the adrenaline and make you look and feel better and your free time do meditation or yoga things of that nature to help you retrain your mind to be positive start with those two things and move on from there. The one thing that I've learned from this condition is that the more work you put in the more you get. Good luck,

[Makethebestoutoflife]

Hi! I know how you feel and I have deep sympathy for you. My advice is to follow your heart ( I know you think this may not be possible right now ) but your heart is always talking to you and you just have to open your ears and mind to hear it. -Page