where do I go?

[Tiffanie]

I was just wondering, where do people go when they've decided to face the world and leave the isolated solace of our safe places and be apart of the world.

That's my problem right now, I want to go out, but whats the point, when I will still be alone? I've been so isolated the majority of my life that i really don't even know how to talk to people, I would rather type words then say them, trapped online or in my mind.

I started a course at a local college a few months back, but I go in with the attitude "i'm not here to make friends i'm here to do this course" and did some self realization that it's just a mask (the b.i.t.ch.) I wear so i don't have to talk to people, because in truth, i'm scared and don't really know how.

I would go to a coffee shop and talk to someone, or the mall, but I always find it strange when random people come up to me and start talking.......

Suggestions/Input???

also, how do i reply to threads, i've been trying too and either I'm too stupid or too medicated right now -le sigh-

[Kampo242519]

Two thing that helped and worked for me was, Visiting a coffee shop, and a market 2 times a week. In both instance I went in with a goal, go in get my coffee, and items I need and go home. for the first month it was ver uncomfortable- I must have broken time records for shopping and drinking coffee how fast I was in and out. After that first month how ever, the 2 places I went to got familiar, and a little more comfortable. I started small conversation with the cashiers, and some of the regulars in there. Ina six month period I manage to make a few friends, poeple I chatted with on Myspace and such, even went out ona few dates with the cashier at the coffee shop.

[Colourgirl]

Hello Tiffanie,

I found that when I was breaking back into social c***les again, I started with fitness first. We used to live nearby a lake that was also a social hub and just by jogging around there with my dog made me feel like I was more part of the scene than the scenery. Coffee shops to hang out in are nice as well, and even though it feels awkward to break the ice, it will never get better until you put some effort into it. :) I also like yoga classes, and whatnot. If you start with what makes you happy first, the other stuff comes as a natural extension of that. It's weird how that happens.

Replying to threads: There is a button at the end of each post that says "Reply" with an arrow. (And you are not stupid!!) I hope to hear how you are doing!!

Colourgirl