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Danni87
02-23-2011, 08:34 PM
I am in dire need of someone to listen to me.
I'm currently going through a relapse of depression, my first spout was nearly 18 months ago after i found out my partner had cheated on me and was an alcoholic.
Other things happened around the same time which contributed, so i was put on anti depressants but after 3 months of taking them i felt that i didn't have to anymore and i just stopped. What a huge mistake that is learning to be because right now all i want to do is go to sleep and never wake up.
Go to sleep where i can be at peace, where i can be away from everyone who doesn't understand me.
I have only been back on the medication 2 days, my partner went out this evening for a few drinks. He text me at 11.30pm to say that he was having one more then he'd be home.
To cut a long story short, he didn't come home until 1.30am by which time i was feeling really low and all i wanted was a cuddle.
He is drunk and came to bed but he wasn't listening to me.
I tried explaining how i feel but he told me to fuck off and to leave him alone as he was tired.
I feel so alone, no one understands me and all i want to do is die.
Depression is an awful thing and i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.
I hope that one day all these negative people who question what depression is really like will get a glimpse of what it's like living with a feeling that you are worthless, pathetic and ugly every minute of every day.
The only rest i get is when i finally manage to fall asleep.
I want help but just can't seem to find anyone who will help me.

Roseanna
03-09-2011, 03:06 PM
hi Danni87.
i'm sorry to hear you are feeling this way, i know how you feel, i often get frustrated at people who just don't want to understand or listen, i just feel like some people really need to open there eyes to what it is like.
what your partner said and done must be very upsetting for you, it sounds like he doesn't help your problems, not understanding is one thing but swearing at you and making you feel worse is in my eyes out of order. have you discovered what helps you feel a little better? does talking to people help? if so, have you or do you have a counsellor of some sort? it's good to keep talking about how you feel but i understand that how your partner reacted could have made you think twice about it. as for the medication, when i first started taking medication for depression, it took ages to take full effect, if you think it should be working by now then maybe take a trip back to the docters.
i'm sorry i couldn't be more of a help, i often wish i could magic everyones issues away but unfortunatley life doesn't work like that. be strong danni and remind yourself of the good things in life.

RebeccaJoyce
03-17-2011, 12:10 AM
try to make him understand how it feels!