Sometimes feeling like an outcast in chat

[Katie_katie]

It hurts to feel like an outcast in chat. I don't come into chat to feel worse, to feel less worthy than I already do. Sometimes people in chat act like your best buddy one moment and then the next time they're on not even a "Hello". I understand that people for varying reasons fluctuate on a daily or even hourly basis and it wouldn't be so bad if they didn't chat to most people at the time they ignored you, but when you're the only one at the time it really hurts. I wish people could just for a second be a little more sensitive to other people's feelings and I don't think it's a lot to ask for. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've left the chat room in tears. I know I'm not the only one who gets ignored in chat, I see it happen to others too at times, it's just that I thought the chat was a place I (anyone) could go to and not feel so alone and feel welcomed and feel I was a part of something. When chat's friendly, welcoming and inclusive, I can't begin to tell you how much it means to me and the difference it makes to my day. Some people are probably going to hate me for posting this but I don't care, if you've never been ignored in chat and/or left in tears then this posting will probably seem over-exaggerated to you........ but I assure you it's been a very real and frequent experience for me and I really think it needed to be shared.


Katie_katie :blink:

sory katie

Katie,

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa65/cdn_bluecowgirl/Im%20sorry/SORRY.gif THAT YOU ARE FEELING THIS IN CHAT.

I know I have on occasion felt that way myself and I understand the hurt. You are right we were talking about it the other night a group of us, about the difference it makes when you come in to chat and people take the time to welcome you and ask how and include you in chat. If this is from last night I do apologize, I was for one in voice chat, and was also trying to help someone get the kickchat so I wasn't really paying attention I was in and out of the room like a yo yo!! But please know that when I am there like I told you before you can contact me at anytime and I hope I didn't upset you, if I did I am truly sorry, because I really enjoyed our chat the other night.

Thank you for bringing this to everyone's attention AGAIN!! You are not the first to feel this way and it is upsetting to me. But please trust me Katie, that there are sooooooooooooooo many lovely people in chat, please just keep trying to come back hun honestly please....because I will miss you if you dont!

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa65/cdn_bluecowgirl/Hearts/ththheart10.gif ~bluecowgirl

[Katie_katie]

And to add to my posting, I go into chat after posting my first posting (above) and am told that my "complaint" is more or less unwarranted cause for the first time ever I spend a significant time in pm and it's seen and 'how can I complain that people exclude others if I'm on pm for so long and not in public chat'. I'm hoping logbot will verify both the proof and history behind my initial posting, cause it is easy to jump to conclusions that nullify the experience on a first glance as was done when I was on pm without checking the facts.

Katie_katie :huh:

[FLORENCE]

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Katie,,,I understand how this happens at times,,not saying it is ok !!! I am sorry that you have left in tears,,,,that is what we try to be supportive in,,,, if I had any thing to do with your hurt feelings , I am truly sorry....If you feel that you are being ignored then , just jump in there and say you are still here ...just to remind ppl. Again I am really sorry for your hurt feelings ,,,,FLORENCE

[Katie_katie]

Katie,

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa65/cdn_bluecowgirl/Im%20sorry/SORRY.gif THAT YOU ARE FEELING THIS IN CHAT.

I know I have on occasion felt that way myself and I understand the hurt.* You are right we were talking about it the other night a group of us, about the difference it makes when you come in to chat and people take the time to welcome you and ask how and include you in chat.* If this is from last night I do apologize, I was for one in voice chat, and was also trying to help someone get the kickchat so I wasn't really paying attention I was in and out of the room like a yo yo!!* But please know that when I am there like I told you before you can contact me at anytime and I hope I didn't upset you, if I did I am truly sorry, because I really enjoyed our chat the other night.*

Thank you for bringing this to everyone's attention AGAIN!!* You are not the first to feel this way and it is upsetting to me.* But please trust me Katie, that there are sooooooooooooooo many lovely people in chat, please just keep trying to come back hun honestly please....because I will miss you if you dont!

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa65/cdn_bluecowgirl/Hearts/ththheart10.gif* ~bluecowgirl


Thank you bluecowgirl, you are very sweet and no it wasn't you this posting was directed towards in anyway. Thank you for verifying that my experience does actually exist......the validation means a lot. I look forward to chatting with you again soon.

katie_katie xxxxxx :rolleyes: